Back in my younger days I was obsessed with achieving a certain size…a number on the scale—a number I would never, could never achieve because physically and physiologically I didn’t have the DNA—it isn’t in my genes.
I remember longing for my mom’s lean legs versus inheriting my dad’s thick thighs.
Why do people struggle with such things— embrace your difference.
You might enjoy this short video I created about this topic….
Whether it’s dieting, or now the more commonly referenced clean eating….With the internet, social media, and influencers it’s worse.
Thank goodness I grew up in the pre-internet era. With my then existing insecurities it would have been a nightmare.
Embrace your difference
A woman blessed with a more curvaceous avocado shaped body will never acquire her friend’s asparagus shaped body. Never. No matter how hard she tries.
Who wants to obsess about every macro morsel consumed? It’s no way to live.
Looking back I think of the many years, hours, minutes wasted trying to achieve a physicality I could not ever attain. I’ve written about my story, posted on my About page here. It’s still a journey.
Although I’ll never get back the years wasted being concerned about my physique, perhaps my message will inspire other women—no matter their shape, be it avocado, asparagus, or other.
BE FREE and be well!
P.S. If you struggle with acceptance, please schedule a complimentary 30-minute strategy session with me and let’s chat.
Jennifer “Neily” Neily, MS, RDN, LD, FAND
Neily on Nutrition
Registered Dietitian Nutritionist
Wellcoach® Certified Health Coach
Fellow of the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics
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I love this !!
Glad you enjoyed it – thank you Jane!
Enjoyed your article Jennifer!😊
Really enjoyed reading such a relatable personal story. I have struggled too with the same personal appearance and self esteem problems and it’s so nice to know my own teacher is relatable. I have chosen nutrition as my major to someday be able to help people in the same ways you do. You truly are inspiring! I can’t wait to see what else your class brings into my life!
Thanks Emmie! I love sharing what I’ve learned.
Your post was a good reminder that I don’t have to be obsessed about trying to be a smaller size. I have always struggled with trying to achieve a certain size. I tried every diet and joined every fitness group that I could think of only to be right back to where I began. I finally realized that my body has an entirely different shape than what I wish I had but I have learned to be okay with that. I will never be a size 0 and that is just fine. I am happy just the way I am. I am learning to eat healthier for me. Thank you for your post.
I enjoyed reading this. I used to be the same way and always thought I had to be a certain number on the scale but now the older I get I realize it is about being healthy.
I enjoyed reading this When I was younger I used to be the same way and thought I had to be a certain number on the scale but the older I got I realized it was about being healthy.
When I was younger I thought the scale always had to show a certain number than as I got older I realized I just need to be healthy. -FeFe
I absolutely adore this blog post! Being a 5’10-5’11 woman I’ve struggled all my life with wanting to be smaller, to feel more feminine. Then when you look to the media you see all these tall women with super slender bodies and it’s hard to feel like you fit anywhere. It’s a daily struggle, but self-acceptance is something I’m working on. Such a great article!
So pleased you found it valuable! It’s an important message. Thanks for your comment Jordan –
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Thank you – glad you enjoyed the post!
I enjoy reading article !!! It has love myself and accept my body shape
Thanks! I’m so glad you enjoyed my post-
Hello, first I would like to say I absolutely LOVED the video! I feel it is very true that now with social media, it makes women feel as though they are supposed to be only one size, which is thin. I do not agree with that at all and believe women should love the skin they are in, no matter the size. I will also say that I have always been a thin lady and still to this day would like to gain weight. I will admit that I struggle with just accepting my body type as I am.
So glad you loved the video! Yes I think with social media…things are so concerning.
And I know with being thin like you…it is just as challenging for you as when someone is trying to manage weight.
Love this post! I have struggled with accepting my appearance for a while now and social media doesn’t make it any better. Your post was a wonderful reminder that I don’t have to judge my appearance too hard.
I’m so glad you enjoyed the post! It’s an important message…especially in this day and age of social media!
I enjoyed reading your post and watching your videos on YouTube. Those are very informative and encouraging for me. At teenage age I had also same experience when l tried to get all those film actresses body shape but couldn’t. Now l have overcome those mentality and happy the way I’m. There is nothing wrong if I have little tummy fat😉😂.
Thanks for your comments – glad you enjoyed the post. -Neily
Your post and videos are so informative and encouraging. We should not try to be like others because no two people can be the same .Everyone has different body structure.👍
I was completely surprised when I started reading this I thought it was going to be how avocados and asparagus are very healthy or something like that but I really liked the analogy you used to compare body sizes to food shapes.
Well they both are very healthy! But you’re right it was just an analogy 🙂